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Tom Degnan & Erin Cummings

When actors Erin Cummings and Tom Degnan got married six years ago, they had no idea that “in sickness and in health” would be tested so quickly. Just three months later, she was diagnosed with cancer and he was diagnosed with a cancer-like kidney disease, upending their lives—and their brand new marriage. For the first time, they give a joint interview about what they had to go through, how on earth they got through it, and how it actually made their relationship even stronger.
by Sollis Health

How and when were you both diagnosed?

Erin: I was diagnosed on Sept 6, 2016. I was 39 years old, and the age people are supposed to start getting mammograms is 40. I mentioned to my gynecologist that I felt a little numb pain in my right breast and she suggested that I get a mammogram. Even though I didn’t think that it was necessary, it turns out that saved my life, because that mammogram was what ultimately led to the diagnosis of stage two breast cancer. It was a type called HER2-positive, which is a very aggressive, fast-growing cancer. Had I waited until I turned 40, it probably would have been much more advanced and my treatment would not have been as cut and dry.

Tom: I was diagnosed in October 2016. It started out with something as simple as swelling in my lower extremities that I played off to the fact that I had numerous injuries from playing sports in high school and college. Then there was blood in my urine, and that’s when I knew something was wrong. Essentially, I was initially diagnosed with something that closely resembled multiple myeloma. I had a monoclonal gammopathy of renal significance, but it’s sort of between myeloma and lymphoma.

What treatments did you undergo?

Erin: I did six rounds of chemo, including a targeted therapy called Herceptin. And then after that I stayed on Herceptin infusions for a full year. I also had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction. And I did 36 rounds of targeted radiation. And then a lot of therapy to deal with all the mental part of it, which is a whole other aspect of dealing with cancer.

Tom: I was put on a treatment plan that utilized three different drugs: Revlimid, which is basically oral chemotherapy, and injections of Velcade with a dexamethasone steroid.

How did you manage to stay positive when you were going through chemo together in your first year of marriage?

Erin: A lot of therapy. Prior to this, I always operated with the feeling that if you have good friends, you don’t need therapy. After finding a good therapist, I realized that’s definitely not true. In fact, most of my friends probably needed therapy too! In addition, having a good sense of humor and finding ways to allow ourselves to joke about the really dark things—things you probably wouldn’t necessarily say in public about cancer. We gave each other the permission and freedom to say those things with one another.

Tom: Our family was very key in helping us stay positive. And as messed up as this sounds, considering we both were going through something, we both had a deep understanding of what the other person was going through. So therefore, we could be there in ways I don’t think we really could have if it was just one of us going through it. The other thing was that we were very fortunate we had incredible medical care here in Los Angeles. When I was diagnosed, I didn’t know how long it was going to go. There was definitely a dark abyss I felt like I was staring into, but at least at the very bottom I knew we had really great medical care.

Can you share more on the collateral damage that you experienced after being diagnosed with cancer?

Erin: It was like this tsunami of one thing happening, which caused another thing to happen, which caused another thing to happen. I ended up getting an intestinal infection called C. diff, which usually only affects very old people because of their weakened immune system. And since I was neither old nor hospitalized, no one thought to say, “Hey by the way, if you have diarrhea for three weeks straight, and you can’t eat more than chicken broth without feeling like you’re going to be sick, there might be something wrong.” So I had diarrhea for three weeks, and lost 15 pounds I couldn’t afford to lose at the time. I used to joke it would be just my luck—I get cancer, but I don’t die of cancer, I die by s***ting myself to death. And then things like my toenails and fingernails falling off that no one prepared me for. You know, everybody talks about your hair falling out, but there are so many other things that happen to your body.

Tom: I think the biggest thing is that it’s still hard for me to talk about. As much as I’ve been through, I’m still not over it. I have to go in every other month to make sure it’s still in remission. I go into these appointments and there’s definitely 48 hours before and 24 hours after while I’m waiting for the test results to sit there and wonder, Is it back? I think it put me in a constant state of alert and fear. Having to put on this face like I’m OK, when secretly inside, I felt like I was crumbling. The hardest part is that no matter how much I try to cast it aside, or how much therapy I do, or how many times I talk to people, there’s this thing hanging over my shoulder. And for right now, it’s not going away. Adding to the collateral damage is the fact that when we got married, we were hoping to get pregnant and start growing our family as soon as possible. And immediately, before we even had a chance to learn what life was like for us as a couple, we were told, “Hey, you can’t start trying to have a family at least for several years.” So our hopes and dreams were put on hold. And of course by the time we finished treatment, the damage was so significant that we had no choice but to have a baby via surrogate, which we were very privileged and fortunate to have as an option, but obviously was not the way we would have chosen.

“I think it put me in a constant state of alert and fear. Having to put on this face like I'm OK, when secretly inside, I felt like I was crumbling.” (Tom)

Erin, you’ve said in the past that the term “cancer-free” is a misnomer. What do you mean by that?

Erin: I have multiple friends who went who had surgery or did some form of treatment and ended up later having breast cancer again. There was either some cancer in the incision line that they didn’t get or the cancer came back because one of those little cells attached itself to your liver and laid there dormant for 10 years.

The idea of somebody being cancer-free is to ignore the cancer that we live with on a day to day basis, which is the psychological cancer of going through that type of trauma. The only people I consider cancer-free are the people who haven’t had cancer. Once you’ve played Russian Roulette with your life, it’s hard to forget that trauma. It’s kind of like walking around with someone behind you pointing a loaded gun at your head. You just never know if it’s gonna go off again. I like to think that we will live very long, healthy lives. But I think once you’ve had to face something like that, there’s a feeling of, When is the other shoe gonna drop?

What advice do you have for people who are trying to bounce back from physical and/or emotional hardships?

Erin: Find a therapist, get in therapy.

Tom: Ask for help when you need it. Rely on your friends and your family. You’ll be surprised how many people step up way more than you think they ever could. And then just be good to yourself when you need to rest.

How did overcoming cancer give your life—and your relationship—a new sense of purpose? Is there anything surprising you learned about yourselves along the way?

Erin: We learned who was there for us and who we could count on. It strengthened relationships we didn’t realize were as strong as they were that we had maybe taken for granted. It also allowed us the freedom to walk away from relationships that were not supportive, that weren’t healthy for us. And I think the level of trust we have with one another—the level of honesty—there’s a bond we have that is unbreakable. That’s not something that can be faked. That’s not something that can be replaced. You know, every marriage goes through challenges and moments where people say the grass is greener, but for us, there is nothing, there’s no one out there for either of us who could even conceive of the fire we’ve walked through together. We also actually sat down and said, “Alright, if we’re going to have a kid, it’s now going to take a lot of time, it’s gonna be really emotional, pretty f***ing painful, and it’s gonna cost a hell of a lot of money. So why do we even want to do this?” And we really sat down and figured out why we wanted to have kids. And to be honest, most people don’t do that. Most people get pregnant and just go through with it. Or they say, “We want to have kids because that’s what people do.” But most people don’t sit down and go, “Why are we really doing this? What are we sacrificing?” We really did that. And so when we finally were able to have a child, it was so much more.

Tom: Resilience is the biggest thing. And I think you also develop a sense of, you’ve gone through this, so trivial things you deal with everyday don’t carry the same weight they did before.

“The idea of somebody being cancer-free is to ignore the cancer that we live with on a day to day basis, which is the psychological cancer of going through that type of trauma.” (Erin)

Where are you both at in your health journeys these days, and what sort of things are you doing to monitor yourselves?

Erin: I have my oncology visits once a year. But I am much more diligent about my yearly physicals, my flu shots, my COVID vaccines. I drink a lot less than I used to, I definitely don’t indulge in vices as much as I used to. I still smoke weed. But for both of us, our diet has gotten a lot cleaner. And I’m also just more diligent—when I notice something, I get it checked out immediately. Tom: The biggest things for me are diet and exercise and restricting things I had the ability to do in my 20s and 30s. But with regards to my health journey, when I noticed these symptoms and didn’t deal with them head on, it sort of was like a runaway train, and now I feel like I at least have a grasp on it. In addition, I have a blood pressure monitor next to my bed. So I’ll monitor my blood pressure daily, keep up with the medications, make sure I’m seeing my doctors regularly, getting a yearly physical. At this point, I feel comfortable with where I’m at. Whereas before, I can’t tell you how many times I would delay a yearly physical, or rather than getting something checked out, I would just sit there and hope it would go away on its own.

After everything you’ve been through, what was it like to finally have a baby last year?

Erin: I’m gonna get emotional, but there was a moment it really hit me. And that was a few months ago when Tommy was baptized in the same church where we got married. It’s the basilica on the campus of Notre Dame University. And he was baptized by the same priest who married us. Even though it was a much smaller gathering of people, the people who were at his baptism were also at our wedding, and being back in that church for the first time since that day we got married—when we stood there at the altar with so much hope and dreams in front of us not having any idea what was right around the corner—with the same priest, and all of our parents being there, after COVID, after the fear of our parents not being around… to be able to have such a milestone for our son’s life take place in a sacred and special place, it was the first time I really started to feel like, OK, this nightmare is over. We’re OK. And even though I said we’ll never really feel or be cancer free, that was a very emotional day for me. It felt like our lives had come full circle. Our son is thriving in every possible way. He is, and has been, healthy since the day he was born. He is wonderful, he is full of joy. And he has renewed our sense of purpose and breathed new life into our marriage. He is also a reminder of why we want to be our best selves and live our healthiest lives, and we’ve got a lot to live for. Especially now. Tom: When you get diagnosed, it’s almost like everybody shuts the lights off and you’re in this room. And then as you progress, whether it’s therapy, your friends, your family, you doing things taking your mind off it a bit, the lights get a little bit brighter in the room. The moment my son came into the world, it’s like all the lights came on. It’s one of the greatest experiences of my life. Having him really, really, really fulfilled me in ways that felt like I did when I got married. I’ve known for a very long time I wanted to be a father, and to see that come about—when there were moments where I dealt with doubt as to whether or not that was going to happen—was a sense of completeness.

What are you most looking forward to about joining Sollis?

Given everything we’ve been through, having round-the-clock medical care as a first line of defense for our family is a dream come true.

Any good words to live by?

Erin: Take a nap and get in therapy. Tom: My grandmother would always tell me, “This too shall pass.” She also said, “Listen, kid, if you can wake up and put one foot in front of the other, it’s a good day.”
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